That is what I told one of my students last Thursday. He had been having a rough morning, behavior wise, and had to go to the office. Once he was up there, he and I had a talk about how he should be acting in class. Then, out of the blue, he started crying and absolutely broke down. I had no idea why (at the time). When he finally calmed down a little, he told me why he was upset. "They are fighting again," he said. The "they" that he is referring to are his parents. As I continued to talk with him, I found out that he felt that his parents were blaming him for fighting, and that he could do nothing to get them to stop.
When the conversation was over he felt better, but was still very upset, and rightfully so. My heart goes out to him. He should not feel like that. He should be a happy go lucky kid, with no worries. But that is not reality or how the world works. Sometimes kids see, hear, and feel things at a much too young age. Most of the time, however, it is NOT their fault. It is the parent(s) fault.
Undoubtedly, Katie and I will eventually have a big argument (I will continue to hope not however). But when/if that happens, I will NOT let my children think that it is their fault. If I have an suspicion that they think it is their fault, I will talk with them about it and help them see that it isn't their fault that Mom and Dad had an argument.
I am not a parent yet, and do not presume to have all of the answers. I will make mistakes. But I just hope that I do a good enough job, so that my children grow up to be accepting, truthful, and loving people.
Until Next Time,
Mr. Ryan
When the conversation was over he felt better, but was still very upset, and rightfully so. My heart goes out to him. He should not feel like that. He should be a happy go lucky kid, with no worries. But that is not reality or how the world works. Sometimes kids see, hear, and feel things at a much too young age. Most of the time, however, it is NOT their fault. It is the parent(s) fault.
Undoubtedly, Katie and I will eventually have a big argument (I will continue to hope not however). But when/if that happens, I will NOT let my children think that it is their fault. If I have an suspicion that they think it is their fault, I will talk with them about it and help them see that it isn't their fault that Mom and Dad had an argument.
I am not a parent yet, and do not presume to have all of the answers. I will make mistakes. But I just hope that I do a good enough job, so that my children grow up to be accepting, truthful, and loving people.
Until Next Time,
Mr. Ryan
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